List of 101 of the little ways a man can score points with women.

Hey ya people,

I've been meaning to write for a while, but..pfttt..just couldn't bring myself to do it. hehe.Since I'm not in a very good mood lately, the last thing I wanna talk about is about relationship. However, I've been putting this post in draft for quite a while, I might as well post them right..heeee. 

[Extract from John Gray’s Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus]

A man thinks he scores high with a woman when he does something very big for her. This formula doesn’t work because women keep score differently. When a woman keeps score, no matter how big or small a gift of love is, it scores one point; each gift has equal value.

There are a variety of ways a man can score points with his partner without having to do much. It is just a matter of redirecting the energy and attention he is already giving. Most men already know about many of these things but don’t bother to do them because they don’t realize how important the little things are to a woman. A man truly believes the little things are insignificant when compared to the big things he is doing for her.

The way women score points is not just a preference but a true need. Women need many expressions of love in a relationship to feel loved. One or two expressions of love, no matter how important, will not, and cannot, fulfill her.

Following is a list of 101 of the little ways a man can [score points with women].

1. Upon returning home find her first before doing anything else and give her a hug.
2. Ask her specific questions about her day that indicate an awareness of what she was planning to do (eg., “How did your appointment with the doctor go?”).
3. Practice listening and asking questions.
4. Resist the temptation to solve her problems – emphatize instead.
5. Give her 20 minutes of unsolicited, quality attention (don’t read newspapers or be distracted by anything else during this time).
6. Bring her cut flowers as a surprise as well as on special occasions.
7. Plan a date several days in advance, rather than waiting for Friday night and asking her what she wants to do.
8. If she generally makes dinner or if it is her turn and she seems tired or really busy, offer to make dinner.
9. Compliment her on how she looks.
10. Validate her feelings when she is upset.
11. Offer to help her when she is tired.
12. Schedule extra time when traveling so that she doesn’t have to rush.
13. When you are going to be late, call her and let her know.
14. When she asks for support, say yes or no without making her wrong for asking.
15. Whenever her feelings have been hurt, give her some empathy and tell her “I’m sorry you feel hurt. Don’t offer solutions or explanations why her hurt is not your fault.
16. Whenever you need to pull away, let her know you will be back or that you need some time to think about things.
17. When you’ve cooled off and you come back, talk about what was bothering you in a respectful, non blaming way, so she doesn’t imagine the worst.
18. Offer to build a fire in wintertime.
19. When she talks to you, put down your magazine or turn off the TV and give her your full attention.
20. If she usually washes the dishes, occasionally offer to wash the dishes, especially if she is tired that day.
21. Notice when she is upset or tired and ask what she has to do. Then offer to help by doing a few of her “to do” items.
22. When going out, ask if there is anything she wants you to pick up at the shops, and remember to pick it up.
23. Let her know when you are planning to take a nap or leave.
24. Give her four hugs a day.
25. Call her from work to ask how she is or to share something exciting or to tell her I love you”.
26. Tell her “I love you” at least a couple of times every day.
27. Make the bed and clean up the bedroom.
28. If she washes your socks, turn your socks right side out so she doesn’t have to.
29. Notice when the rubbish bin is full and offer to empty it.
30. When you are out of town, call to leave a telephone number where you can be reached and to let her know you arrived safely.
31. Wash her car.
32. Wash your car and clean up the interior before a date with her.
33. Wash before having sex or put on a cologne if she likes that.
34. Take her side when she is upset with someone.
35. Offer to give he a back or neck or foot massage (or all three).
36. Make a point of cuddling or being affectionate sometimes without being sexual.
37. Be patient when she is sharing. Don’t look at your watch.
38. Don’t flick the remote control to different channels when she is watching TV with you.
39. Display affection in public.
40. When holding hands don’t let your hand go limp.
41. Learn her favourite drinks so you can offer her a choice of the ones that you know she already likes.
42. Suggest different restaurants for going out; don’t put the burden of figuring out where to go on her.
43. Get season tickets for the theatre, symphony, opera, ballet, or some other type of performance she likes.
44. Create occasions when you both can dress up.
45. Be understanding when she is late or decides to change her outfit.
46. Pay more attention to her than to others in public.
47. Make her more important than the children. Let the children see her getting your attention first and foremost.
48. Buy her little presents – like a small box of chocolates or perfume.
49. Buy her an outfit (take a picture of your partner along with her sizes to the store and let them help you select it).
50. Take pictures of her on special occasions.
51. Take short romantic getaways.
52. Let her see that you carry a picture of her in your wallet and update it from time to time.
53. When staying in a hotel, have them prepare the room with something special, like a bottle of champagne or sparkling apple juice or flowers.
54. Write a note or make a sign on special occasions such as anniversaries and birthdays.
55. Offer to drive the car on long trips.
56. Drive slowly and safely, respecting her preferences. After all, she is sitting powerless in the front seat.
57. Notice how she is feeling and comment on it – “You look happy today” or “You look tired” – and then ask a question like “How was your day?”
58. When taking her out, study in advance the directions so that she does not have to feel responsible to navigate.
59. Take her dancing or take dancing lessons together.
60. Surprise her with a love note or poem.
61. Treat her in ways you did at the beginning of the relationship.
62. Offer to fix her something around the house. Say “What needs to be fixed around here? I have some extra time.” Don’t take on more than you can do.
63. Offer to sharpen her knives in the kitchen.
64. Buy some good Super Glue to fix things that are broken.
65. Offer to change light bulbs as soon as they go out.
66. Help with recycling the rubbish.
67. Read our loud or cut our sections of the newspaper that would interest her.
68. Write out neatly any phone messages you may take for her.
69. Keep the bathroom floor clean and dry it after taking a shower.
70. Open the door for her.
71. Offer to carry the groceries.
72. Offer to carry heavy boxes for her.
73. On trips, handle the luggage and be responsible for packing it in the car.
74. If she washes the dishes or it is her turn, offer to help scrub pots or other difficult tasks.
75. Make a “to fix” list and leave it in the kitchen. When you have extra time do something on that list for her. Don’t let it get too long.
76. When she prepares a meal, compliment her cooking.
77. When listening to her talk, use eye contact.
78. Touch her with your hand sometimes when you talk to her.
79. Show interest in what she does during the day, in the books she reads and the people she relates to.
80. When listening to her, reassure her that you are interested by making little noises like ah ha, uh-huh, oh, mmhuh, and hmmmm.
81. Ask her how she is feeling.
82. If she has been sick in some way, ask for an update and ask how she is doing or feeling.
83. If she is tired offer to make her some tea.
84. Get ready to go to sleep together and get in bed at the same time.
85. Give her a kiss and say good-bye when you leave.
86. Laugh at her jokes and humour.
87. Verbally say thank you when she does things for you.
88. Notice when she gets her hair done and give a reassuring compliment.
89. Create special time to be alone together.
90. Don’t answer the phone at intimate moments or if she is sharing vulnerable feelings.
91. Go bicycling together, even if it’s just a short ride.
92. Organize and prepare a picnic. (Remember to bring a picnic cloth.)
93. If she handles the laundry, bring the clothes to the cleaners or offer to do the wash.
94. Take her for a walk without the children.
95. Negotiate in a manner that shows her that you want her to get what she wants and you also want what you want. Be caring, but don’t be a martyr..
96. Let her know you missed her when you went away.
97. Bring home her favorite pie or dessert.
98. If she normally shops for the food, offer to do the food shopping.
99. Eat lightly on romantic occasions so that you don’t become stuffed and tired later.
100. Ask her to add her thoughts to this list.
101. Leave the bathroom seat down.

In case you are wondering why I highlighted certain gesture, it's because items on the list are certainly many ways of how you can score with women. Nevertheless, from my personal opinion: 

* Items in yellow are of high importance. 

* Items in red is of extremely high importance. (sweet ways to score lah kirenye..heeee(^_^)

BTW i didn't actually type all of these information (banyak tuh) google pown boleh dpt. You'll find the exact same stuff in John Gray's book. ^_^

Hav fun!!! & Gud Luck!!!

Crossroads

Almas please stay calm. Constantly " What am I gonna do after classes are over?". Gosh, of course the search for work should begin now. Time is running out, the working world is approaching. I don't have the benefit of a doubt, I have to go out there and get hired! Haha...didn't I make it sounds so easy.

Nape takot almas? There are just too many things on my mind right now. Planning my career, exploring options and potentials, passion, payment, contribution. At 25 (next year) seems like an ancient age to be choosy, pufftt!

I find it hard to concentrate these days. Uncle ( my classmate) told me that I don't have the same spark in my smile as I used to have. Perhaps I'm a change man( cewah! haha). Everybody change right? Everyone has their ups and down, it's just how things work. The day your heart get crushed, could just be some kind of a blessing in disguise for the future. Just keep an open and positive mind about it. ( Yes! It's easier said than done=p, but it can't hurt to try eh? heee)

Those who believe in me and happen to read this might just be disappointed in me or rather staring at me ridiculously for knowing how terrified i am towards all that are happening around me. You can choose to leave if you want, in the end, everyone stands alone right? so BE STRONG =)

It doesn't matter if I choose the road not taken ( sastera kan=p) or the road highly explored...the point it, I will choose well. Halo, ini apa statement, rubbish.hehehehe =)

Kawan-kawan, I'm officially keliru + buntu...so please excuse me =p Kakak suh wat istiharah, JOM=)

I pray that whoever feels the way I'm feeling right now, may all of us be guided by God, keep on trying kawan-kawan.

I'm Out,
Nuralmas

Random

"The person that you thought would stay, is the one that gives you up" 

One thing leads to another...

Hey there folks! hehe.
Please read this post with an annoyingly excited tone..then you'll get what I mean. heee
Ok here it is, Abg Heykal dah mandi ari nie=) heeee...the best part about bathing it, is the time I get to spend on realizing how much I love and appreciate having abg Heykal. I know its just a car, but it took me places. And thank You God for the accommodation...thank you soo much.

And another thing I love abt bathing it, is that you can see rainbow!!!! seriously, the splash of water to its warm black body will brings out the spectrum of rainbow, just like what you'll see when the sun shines after a rainy day. Marvelous!

Owh well, stuff happens...just like shit happens( Forrest Gump, 1994). You must not expect it that I should bother to google the date of the film rite?, well I do, and you can trust my citation! ( lua kawal buat thesis ke sume nak letak citation?...hhehehehe)

I digress a lot...bla..bla..bla...( why do I like talking soo much..hurm). what I really wanna say is that, lately, there has been lots of disputes or misunderstandings ( or whatever you wanna call it) all around me, some of which I was involved in and others of which I was given a chance to observed.

As a humble human being, we are prone to make mistakes, and lots of them. Some people carry good intentions, some not so good, some are friends for benefits, or friends with benefits( i'm not gonna get into this, cause content is irrelevant to the writer's intention..hehe), and there are lots of other kinds of people out there.

I know for a fact that people with good intentions are  safe and will always be guided by God. This world might be unfair, but God is always fair..always=) . Don't worry if you think that you are being used, or betrayed...He knows, He's always there isn't He. So when you're mad, or sad, or disappointed...'Istifar banyak2 ye'....and bnykkan ingat Allah, benar..."dengan mengingat Allah, hati jadi tenang" Alhamdulillah, that we always have Someone to turn to....dan " cukuplah Allah bagiku" =)

Being someone who is highly flawed and  with my unnoticeable egos, sometimes I may think that the other person is on the wrong side, I may think that he/she is mistaken, and that causes lots of dissatisfaction. But you know what bothers me most about dispute and argument? Is the fact that we blame each other and the not-talking part, and all those side-effects from that argument. I can't live with that, I really can't.

Holding a grudge in my heart means that I'm on the losing side, I wasted the part of me to love with hatered. It's  not worth it, it never was, never is, and never will be. Thus, despite how wrong a person is from our perception, I'd rather be the one to apologize. Regardless of whether the person forgive me or not, regardless of how pride-full the person might be out of the fact that I'm actually the one who apologize, hell I don't even care. Seriously, I just wanna make peace, I wanna make peace with myself. At least I apologize with all my heart. Kalau nak cakap ikhlas " Ikhlas tu rahsia Allah" . All of us don't really know how much time we have left on this earth, our best certainties is that " mati itu satu kepastian". If I delayed my words for another day, will I have tomorrow as a guarantee? No I don't. Nowadays, it seems like everybody's leaving, regardless of their age.

Another reason I will always choose to compromise is the fact that, though we have made mistakes to each other, although it may have seem real bad, although it may seem like it it hard to accept each other mistakes. What about all those kindness, patience, love, affection, care, that you have shown to each other? Doesn't that counts? Out of the hundreds time that the person helped you, can't you not discount him/her for this one occasion when they are unable to help you. Tell me, are you not ashamed of yourself for being unappreciative for all those times? I would personally be. I know that, I would never be on the loosing end if I forgive and forget. I is never a sin for me to apologize, but it is a sin for me to hold grudge. When we are angry, setan lebih senang pengaruh kite kan.

Sometimes, the images and observations of others' behavior, reflects ourselves. These are lots to learn from each other. And another thing is that, if you don't forgive others, is there ever a guarantee that  once you are put i their shoes, when you committed the same mistake, that others will be able to forgive you at that time. Ingatlah, setiap hati-hati manusia itu milik Allah, dengan izinNya lah juga hati-hati itu bisa lembut( ttibe aku teringat lagu dlm Ombak Rindu tu, 'tuhan tolong lembutkan hati dia' cewah poyo..hehe). My dear friends, for life might only surprise you, forgive and people will forgive you, love then you will be loved, bersyukurlah selagi masih ada waktu =)

Peringatan untuk semua dan untuk diriku sendiri terutamanye=) InsyAllah

Curik picca akak edit..hehehe. smlm sopping kasut...comel yaw=p ahhhhhhahhhhh. ok fine! tak comel mane pown kasut tp aku suke aku ckp lah comel..hehe

"Kisah Kita"

Nurul 'Izzah Hashim,
Bukan lagi nama yang menjadi tanda tanya pada aku. Sudah seperti sebati dengan kehidupan sepanjang 10 tahun tempoh perkenalan.Cewah! Poyo tak starting? Poyo habis! Taaaapiiiiii........Kau ade? heeee

Aku nak tulis pasal dier, dier tulis pasal aku dulu pulak! isk3...nie link post dier tulis pasal aku, sweet nak mampos!..kalo da bace tu jgn lah nak jeles pulak k? sebenarnyer tak seindah yang dikabarkan, munkin juge lebih indah dari itu..ahahahahaha. aku main2 jur..yang penting Izah paham=p

http://bchempaka.blogspot.com/2011/11/si-chantek.html?spref=fb

If I choose to go down the memory lane and if I have the ability to visualize to you like a projector, I would have get it right the exact moment or conversation when we first started to know each other. There wasn't any fireworks, nor were we dancing in the rain, it's just an exchange of an awkward and annoying conversation.  Just like how she described it in her blog. But we don't have to dwell on the past for us to create an amazing future now, do we? ( don't I just sound like a grandma?) aha

Dari dulu sampai skarang...KURUS je Izzah nie! geram plak aku yg chomeyl terlebey nie.ahaha. The things I like most about her is " humbleness" dari dulu sampai skrang. Boleh kire ngn jari lah brape kali dier ckp basar, hurm...mcm takde je. Itulah sebaiknye...=) Manusia nie, kan takde ape2.


Kepunyaan Allah jugalah segale sasuatu. mmg tak sswai la kalo kite yang hina nie nak membangge walau sekelumit cuma, BUKAN MILIK KITA. Alhamdulillah, sagala pujian bagi Allah. Bukan ape, bukan nak memilih kawan, sume pown saye suke kawan. Shuke2=) Tapi ade kalanya kita perlu observe our circle of friends, walau kite tak membangga diri tapi kalau kawan2 asyik nak mengiklankan kemantapan diri atau harta masing2, gusar, diri yang lemah munkin terikot2 juge. Nauzubillah. Maka carilah kawan yang betol ye kawan2=) . Sebenarnye saye nak bagitau, sbb itulah kualiti merendah diri itu yang dipuja dalam diri sahabatku ini.Alhamdulillah. Milik Allah juge dan atas kuasaNya dan didikanNya juge teman saye ini mampu memiliki sikap itu=) cewah!

Jarang kitorung bercakap pasal kebendaan, sekadar yang perlu je. Jarang kitorunk pagi shopping same2. "Owh budget ko tak materialistik lah kan?" hehehe...bukan2!, cume nak takankan disini, hobi atau minat bukan sesuatu yang menghubungkan kami. Tapi entahlah, macam da ade satu build-up trust that she'll always wanted the best for me vice versa. Syukur kepada Allah, bukan perasaan camburu yang timbul atas sagala kejayaannya, tapi perasaan syukur yang dirasekan seperti meraih kejayaan sendiri=) Mcm tu baru best berkawan kan..heee.

Flashback, kemane je aku tak pargi ngan izzah nie..merate2. heee. Pas abis skolah menengah, dier masuk poli pg antar borang, aku ikot. Pas abis poli, dier pg interview keje kerajaan, aku ikot meronggeng naik moto ngn  dier. Pagi swimming pown pilih baju ngn dier. aha...Dari zaman dier bermoto, campai lah zaman aku berkereta.....ade die=)

Tanye je lah sape je mamber aku yg izah nie tak kenal(banyak snarnyer..haha), dari member diploma sampi degree sume aku knalkan budak hingusan nie..ahaha.. sume tau da kamu kawan baik aku. Cane? Fofuler plak kan!=p

td ckp pasal benda yang aku suke pasal dier. Mase yang paling aku kagum ngn izzah nie adalah time mak dier sakit aritu. Isk3..semangat tinggi giler. wa tabik lu spring sampai loose tak mampu lantun balik spring tu, serious!!! Dengan menjaga rumah, adik2, dengan kerja campi kul 5 pagi masih berjage, ngn jage ibu dier yang bed-ridden mase tu, ulang-alik hospital lagi..SubahanAllah..kuat sahabat aku nie.

Kesimpulannya, there are so many things that we have been through, so many occasions that have reflected the person inside Nurul 'Izzah Hashim. Eventhough at times, it seems like I might take you for granted, knowing the fact that you'll always be there for me regardless of how I treated you..bla3(i'm getting boring n mushy kan!)...I'm very grateful to have known someone like you.Jadi disini saye ingin sekali man'dedicate'kan lagu bon jovi kepada anda..Nurul 'Izzah Hashim. Andai kata suatu hari nnt bile aku dah takde, ketahuilah aku bersyukur adanya "Kisah Kita" dalam hidup ini. Dikala rindu, doakan aku ye sahabat, aku tau bile ko berdoa, munkin bukan kata2 yang keluar( sbb ko tak  brape reti nak meluahkan perasaan kan) tapi bayangan wajah aku akn ada dalam doamu=) hehehehehe. Poyo nak mampos plak kan! hehe.

Harapanku agar persahabatan kami diberi rahmat dan kebaikan di dunia dan terutamanya di akhirat kelak.InsyAllah=)

Procastination

Procrastination is great! Don't get me wrong. The whole concept of " never do today what you can put off for tomorrow" is truly a masterpiece, but....it has got to STOP. I'm a sufferer of this disease. It feels good for a start, but it bites you at the end, leaving you, hopelessly miserable. I even tell myself that I function best when I do things last minute, but the truth is, that is just an excuse. The truth is, I don't really know any other way to go. Truth is, procrastination is a very bad habit that lives in you, damn hard to shake off, and it sucks away all the potential and the opportunity to actually bring out the best in you. It could be deadly even. HaHa!

ok, saje menconteng dulu sebelum we go straight to business.....

Project: Thesis write-up
File name: My Love and Passion
Progress: Next to none.
Urgency: Extremely high.
Mood: Error
Status: tak Patut. isk3

Kau Ade???
hahahahahahaha
sory guyz, sengal sikit...eh..banyak=)
aku buat, aku buat, don't worry, almas kan rajin SGT =p

I'm off...don't miss me too much okay..heeee

( Picture:Ngan kawan baik aku , Nurul 'Izzah, nnt kite cite pasal dier okey=p)

note: realizing the fact that no one actually reads my blog, I have the privilege to merapu all I want without having others judgement set upon me. Life's Great- LG..heeeee

The Things I Like..Random

There's a lot actually, but I can't think of it all in one session. LOL( okey, tak lawak, paham..haha)

1) A good breakfast
2) Nice fresh clean towel. ( Slalu tuka towel kakak marah, kerap sgt..ahahahaha)
3) MEANINGFUL CONVERSATIONS..haven't had any in a while, but just had one with Kak Elyna lepas maghrib td.Meaningful conversation tu mcm mane? Conversation yang akan membawa pada kesan mandalam walau sekejap, tp macam tersedar, and membuatkan kite terpikir dan kadang2 macam nak nangis. Aha....paham tak? haruslah paham..kan pandai =p
4) Honesty ( haruslah aku nak kau jujur sbb aku pown takkan tipu=P) aha.
5) PEOPLE ( saye shuke orang, terutame yang rapat n kawan2 saye la, harus prejudice dicitu coz this people is going to be there for you in good n bad times =) )
6) Ipoh white coffee Ice code: 211 dlm menu Pak Li. aha..outstanding tak? heeee
7) Black& Red- Prone to buy stuff from these two colors. Almas = Boring. ahaahaha
8) PDA aka Public Display of Affection - on famly n friends lah. Haruslah lah nak pelok mak aku kat tesco, haruslah nak usap2 kepale botak adek kat asrama dier, haruslah nak ciom2 member bile jumpe. aha..kau ade? kah3. ( menggelabah minah nie kan=p)
9) Tengok bintang & bulan dan saye juge suke hujan..wah..indah. bakpo lah kat KL tak bnyk bintang..hurm..kat Ganu dulu juto2 bintang nyer ha!
10) Chocolate=) bestnyerrr...dulu kan mase ak diploma my sis degree dier slalu blikan chocolates, argh, best gile kowt, bkn taklah bli sendri, tp nikmat mkn yg org bg tu mmg terbaek arr, bkn sbb free, tp sbb thoughtful gile kowt...hehe..arap2 kakak bace. Motif!

10 random things dulu, nnt I sambung bile teringat lg.heeee

How much have we borrowed?

I remember when I was younger, I used to say that "there's nothing worst than being uninspired". It's true, but somehow when you are so comfortable in your cave, you are prone to fossilization.( Not literally).

Too comfortable to even notice, how much of all these gifts, are borrowed. Aren't we ashamed of ourselves when we complain about all these borrowed stuff, aren't we ashamed that we are proud of all these borrowed items? Hurm.

"Segala yang ada dalam hidupku, ku sedari semua milikMu, ku hanya hambaMu yang berlumur dosa...." best kan lirik nie..huuuu.sedey banyak.

Hari ini atau esok kita munkin tak ada cukup kekuatan untuk mengubah segala kesilapan, tapi yakin dan berniatlah, bahawasanya suatu hari nanti kita boleh memberi yang terbaik dalam keupayaan kita, untuk berjalan lurus dijalan yang diredhaiNya. InsyAllah. Buat mase sekarang, bersyukurlah atas segala pemberian yang ade. Alhamdulillah.

Kesinambungan status di fb: "Maybe someday I'll find my way, somehow..." heee

Hamba yang merinduiMu,
Nuralmas Baharuddin.

A Good Morning

heeeee. pagi tadi mase bgun dari tidur setelah dikejut adida kakak yg mahu pi keje dicampakkan seketul pelastik diatas katil, "dekmas, nah". dengan terpinga2 nyer, aku pown ap nie? tp dlm hati da dpt agak. Si kakak telah membelikan perfume kesukaan yg telah abis.heeee. She reads my mind like a book. LOL. bawu ingt nak beli, tetibe dier da blikan, best giler kowt..heeeeee. Alhamdulillah.so, it's a good morning for me, everyday pown is a good morning jugak atas anugerah to still breath the fresh air milik yang Maha Esa, Subahanallah=)

da lame kan tak memblogkan diri, sgt lah poyo buat blog baru tp terbengkalai, nasib baek takde contract ngn kerajaan kalo tak da kene saman..hahaha. -unrelated btol-

Uyun dan abg boobee telah berkahwin, mcm tak percaye je. eh lebih2 plak kan org lain kawen sendri takmau pecaye. heee. tak3. I'm soo happy for them, Alhamdulillah. Syukur, somge dipanjangkan jodoh diantara mereka=).

The best thing about wedding for me is time nikah: Ijab Kabul tu. Tetibe aku nak nervous plak kan tok abg Bob, haha. Mcm aku plak kan kene ingat rangkap lafaz nikah tu. hahaha. Poyo nak mampos kowt. tp mmg serious aku neves. hahaha. yelah, i think of abg boobee as a brother already, haruslah nervous tok dier. fullstop=p

Kali kedua jd pengapit, Alhamdulillah, everything went smoothly=) saye seperti tidak berape nak banyak tangkap gambar sbb cube ad kamera phone kan. heeee. jadi letak gmbar nie je dulu hokey=p
kesimpulannye......Terima Kasih Ya Allah atas anugerah kehidupan, atas keselamatan, kegembiraan, kecintaan, kesihatan, dan segalenye=D Alhamdulillah.

                                                                       -almas-uyun-izzah-

IKHLAS....

I could be wrong but i don't wanna be wrong? what if i'm wrong?
I suck as a person like hell i tell you. hehe. No I don't, i'm just being super humble to make you feel a bit better about yourself =p..nope..i'm just fooling around.

Ok lah, let me get to the point,
My best friend told me her new year resolution early this year. " Supaya lebih IKHLAS"
Ternyata, mencari dan mengejar ikhlas tu bukan sesenang disangka. Istifar banyak2. hurm.
Perlu lebih mambetulkan niat, membetul kan hati, Ya Allah, terase amat kurang and hina dimataMu. Astarfirullah halazim.

Nasihat untuk Almas,

Jgn terlampau hayal dengan dunia.
Niat tak menghalalkan cara,
Teruskan ingat Allah sentiase,
Teruskan bersangka baik,
Tolong put value on things that really matters,
Dlm mengejar dunia, lebihkan Akhirat yg kekal,
Lebihkan bersyukur sebab itu kunci kabahagiaan,
jgn sedih, jgn negetif sgt, jgn takot, dan jgn cakap lebih dari yang perlu, tolong pikir dulu tentang keikhlasan...
hurm, maaf Ya Allah, diri bersalah, akan mencuba untuk memperbaiki diri, Lailahaillahlah.
moge dengan ini, lega sket hati..hurm..hurm..hurm..

When You Don't Always Know

Hurm,

Is it possible for one to be sad over something that they should't be sad about?

Hurm, 

Will you look at me with such disgrace if i told you that I don't even know the first real reason I'm feeling down, but it just feel like it?

How do we deal with transition?

When it happens?

At that time? 

How do we cope?

Hurm,

Do we move on?

What should be thrown away?

What should be kept?

Are memories healthy?  

Hurm,

You know what I think?

I think I think too much,

It should be normal, I'm too mushy for my own good, that's weired....I thought I'm heartless and numb most of the time. Hurm, so to actually feel is a healthy sign right? Haha.

Feelings itself, in whatever state is a gift, Bersyukur yolah, everything is for the best=D

I wish nothing but goodness for all of us, in life and the here-after=D - Fullstop-

-wina n me kat bookxcess-

People and Me...pfff

Harus memblogkan diri sebelum menyambung kerja.

Supaye aku boleh get rid of things by expressing crap that's going through my mind.

Banyak crap ker? kalo crab kan bagos! boleh makan...hadoi merapu suda=p

Okay, my problem now is, short attention span. Ohohoi, dimanakah dan kemanakah pergi zaman remaja dimana memberikan tumpuan yang sepenuhnya adalah 'effortless'. Haha, bercakap seperti diri telah tua bangka, hak3. Haruslah sedar diri. Ok fine. Dalam environment yang ramai orang, disebabkan aku sangat suke orang, yeah, I have this thing about people, 'I like them so much', don't know why, I get energize by having people around me, excited lebey, padahal takdew ape2 pown. But yeah, there's too much to laugh about, too many to tease, too fun to miss out upon. Makanya, saya seperti budak kacik ( -besar-) yang jumpe mainan, mainan yang same pown takpe, tapi masih excited. Kenape? Serious aku excited jumpe orang. =D

I know we are not suppose to label ourselves through others perception and judgement towards us, but sometimes what other people say make us think, because there are things that we are not aware of. My point exactly, I have been labeled to be " A person with high tolerance towards people". May I confess, I've always love people in general, I see good things in them. Yana said that to me because there's this one incident whereby I've been out all days meeting all sorts of people, when suddenly I got a call to meet some more people for some work and I said yes.  It seems like I could never get tired when I'm with people. But of course I do, sometimes, in some situations. 

Anyway, because of my difficulties to concentrate towards my work as I'm being distracted by people           ( maybe I distracted myself.LOL) I am now at home looking forward to finish this assignment which is due tomorrow, urff..today..its Tuesday already=) I guess that's all for now. Hav fun working!

Kematian itu suatu kepastian....

Yes, indeed, it happens everyday and eventually to everybody with no exception. I can't help but to feel that, life itself is fragile. God granted it to us, and has every right to take it back, so why are we acting like we're gonna live forever? We're trying our best in this life and the here after.

If I think that this life is scary, the here after is the point of no return. What we will receive later is the result of how we behave now. So this life is the utmost important TEST. Of all the certainties in life, death is an absolute. Ironic. Let our last word, be the pledge of our belief in our creator and his messenger.

" Sesungguhnya solatku, ibadahku, hidupku, matiku, kerana Allah Taala"

Ok enough of creepy post. Sambung study ekonomi yang aku sangat suke=) honest!

Pure Deterioration

This is how I feel, I know i'm deteriorating, by performance. It's kinda hard to say so, and shameful to say for someone as motivated as myself that I cannot find it in me to fight against the feelings of loosing my momentum. I used to be buried down by all my work, but strangely enough I was able to keep it together.

Now, I'm not sure why, and I know as hell nobody will be able to help me as i'm just.......and i should help myself up, but how? I hate this feeling of taking what I have for granted. I don't want to, and I know I shouldn't , but I do. This is what I'm doing, and it hurts my soul that I'm going against my means.

Is it because I haven't found what am looking for? What am I really passionate about?, what am really I good at? It seems I'm very average at most things. WTH? Yes, I am determined to finish my studies,and I have to admit that with the level of self-confidence I have in myself, i isn't all that hard, but what makes thing extremely difficult is that I can't seem to be enthusiastic and passionate about it. 

Am I  taking my capabilities and abilities for granted? I know that I could grasp on a concept quite easily, I know I can achieve high marks if I wanted to put an effort to it, I know for sure that I can analyze difficult material and come to the level  very high of understanding that enables me to connect one concept to another. I know it all, but instead of using this knowledge and confidence to assist me, I kinda use it against me.

Now, I take things too lightly, too lenient, I don't find studying to be very adventures anymore, at times I feel like I should be able to grasp information even without further assistance.( I'm taking it for granted). What happen to me?

I miss studying in my diploma years, I take things seriously, I didn't know of my abilities and I didn't really belief in my self, not to that kind of confidence that I have now. However to be honest, they are the one that pushed me to put in extra effort. I did not take education for granted. 

Or am I too far from you God? Have life been occupying me so much that I forgot all the important things in life? But I do remember You all the time. Have I been taking your gift for granted? Have I been blinded by the lights? What is it that deteriorates me? I don't thing I've change that much, I don't have a lot of issues, or self conflict that needed much attention like other people do. I don't have boyfriend problem to distract me, I don't really have problems with friends (in fact.. i'm happy=D) , what is it? 

This is all I have, and I'm tossing it away, not fully utilizing the opportunity to be something great, why? Should I go to a counseling session then? Haha. 

It's hard for me to feel empty, I believe i'm filled. I don't go search for the wrong things, I know for a fact that if ever we feel down or a bit empty, the only one we should run to is God, for He is always there, always care, always and always.

Sometimes it feels like my time is running short, I'll leave someday, I should make my days worthwhile, so go on almas, what's stopping you? God help me, for you are The Only One who understand everything, in You i trust. 

Ok, enough with confession, I've got economics test tomorrow.

P/s: I'm okay. Just a lil bit uninspired.=D

Biar muka tak cantik, tapi hati mesti nak baik, InsyAllah

Post berbahasa Melayu, kagum tak? ( harus kagum okey!) haha. Pada pendapat saya, orang kalau cantik memang sedap dipandang, walaubagaimanapun, untuk terus manis dipandang, menawan hati, and indah berkawan, hati and sikap kena baik, baru berkekalan lama keadaan 'sedap mata memandang' itu. 

Easy to the eyes and so much easier to our heart. hehe. Macam mana nak tahu orang yang kita kawan tu baik hatinya atau tidak? Mudah, tengoklah tuturkatanya, sikapnya, pemikirannya, cara dia memandang dan melayan orang lain dan segala perlakuannya manggambarkan hatinya. The mind is the window to our soul. 

Saya adalah antara orang yang susah untuk cakap seseorang itu cantik, sebelum saya kenal hati budinya. Tapi bila dah kenal, mulalah, memuji sana-sini. Ini disebabkan hati berkenan dengan cara orang tersebut, maka mata memandang dengan pandangan penuh gembira. 

Selalunya kalau orang itu baik, saya selalu tertanya-tanya, bagaimana agaknya latarbelakang dan pengalaman yang dilalui oleh dia yang membuatkan terbentuknya sikap yang baik itu. Tapi benar, iman tidak akan dapat diwarisi. Didikan yang baik sangat penting, tapi tidak semestinya didikan yang baik menghasilkan sesuatu seperti yang dijangka. Penjagaan hati itu penting. Setiap orang mempunyai cara sendiri dalam mengaplikasi pengetahuan yang diperolehi.  

Apa yang saya cuba tekankan disini adalah, kita perlu teramat bersyukur dengan apa yang diberikan oleh Allah, sebagai contoh, paras rupa, walau pada pandangan kita selalu sahaja ada yang tak kena, janganlah dilayan sangat kenegetifan itu, sesungguhnya apa yang diberikan oleh Allah, itulah yang TERBAIK untuk kita.

Walaubagaimanapun, usahakan untuk sesuatu yang boleh kita kecapi, hati dan akhlak mesti baik, dengan itu, secara automatiknya orang pun akan pandang kita sangat cantik. Jika betul ada orang yang hanya memandang pada paras rupa, adakah kita mahu berkawan dan mengiakan golongan tersebut? Sedangkan kita tahu, bahawasanya manusia tak berhak atas pujian yang diberikan atas paras rupa kita, Allah lah pemilik segala sesuatu. Sedangkan kekuatan yang kita ada dan udara yang kita hidu ini milik-Nya, masakan kita layak untuk dipuji? Tak perlulah kita mahu mengejar pengiktirafan orang yang berfikiran sempit ( shallow). Tetapi, bersahabatlah dengan orang yang menerima kita seadanya dan sentiasa menegur untuk kebaikan. Seperti dalam surah Al'-Asr ( Time). 

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful . Time is witness that, surely, mankind suffers loss except for those of faith, Who do good, and become a model of truthful living,and together practice patience and constancy. 

Translated by Kabir Helminski ( Translasi ini saya Google, tapi dah dicreditkan, takde plagiarism okey=p)

Semoga kita tidak tergolong dalam orang-orang yang rugi. Post ini peringatan untuk diri saya terutamanya. InsyAllah. 

Alhamdulillah=D

Why?

Hehe. Ever since I was young, I have lots of 'why' questions. There were moments where my parents even suggested me to become a lawyer. So that I could ask questions up until people don't know what to reply anymore. LOL. I guess those were just one of the traits of generation Y huh? 

Anyway, the why of today is to clarify the name of the blog: Reinvention of The Self. Basically, I believe in 'there's always room for improvement'. However, quite recently, a lot of people( some who are close to me) just kinda put me in a spot that leave me feeling disappointed. They are nice, we are close, we're happy and stuff,  but the thing is, they lie. Why? I don't know. I think some lie because they just don't know and can't face to tell the truth, some for the sake of feeling good with their made up stories, some of which I don't know why. 

I came up with reinvention of the self to remind myself that I shouldn't sweat the small stuff. I shouldn't put emphasis on what others do that I couldn't explain, I shouldn't waste all these energies being mad about something so meaningless. What I could do is to put things behind me, be at peace to whatever people do to me, and try to my best to be nice towards them regardless of what they did. I know for a fact that " what you give, you get back'. However, I'm in no position to judge or to counter-attack. I wanna focus on the good things, and let God decides the rest. I really am happy, and I don't need some meaningless habit of certain others disrupt  that peace of mind. Let's just all be nice to one another. I'm reinventing myself to accepting the good and let go of the bad. I've always been doing this before as well,but I wanna try harder, and I wanna be better. I know that if you have a good heart, you'll be at ease and bliss all the time. 

It is never to late to reinvent yourself=D. Those who fail to improve are those who lose. 

Really should be sleeping

Whatever the title suggest, i really should be sleeping cause I have  a class tomorrow and a presentation as well. I look forward for tomorrow...opss..it's today. This would be my first entry on my new blog, I know it's lame, but trust me it could be lamer. LOL. So, welcome, to me and happy writing cool stuff alright=D

out
-ROTS-